Dining Etiquette | Alyssa J Cori: Dining Etiquette

April 20, 2015

Dining Etiquette

Just in case you didn't know, I love etiquette! I've posted on this topic before, but here is a slightly updated version.
Dining Etiquette
Let's first get started with the place setting.

Don't be overwhelmed, my friends! We'll take it piece by piece.
  • Starting at the top left you have your bread plate and butter knife. Always keep your bread on your bread plate. If you have to take butter from a dish in the center, take a small amount with your butter knife and place it on your bread plate. The proper way to eat bread is to tear off a bite size piece, butter it with the butter you have already put on your plate, and then eat it. Although this is a more lengthy process, this method will prevent you from any struggle you may have biting the bread and is also more clean and refined. 
  • Next, at the top middle, you have your dessert fork and coffee/tea spoon. These two items are pretty self-explanatory. 
  • Then comes the water goblet and wine glass at the top right. Once again, these items are self-explanatory.
  • At the right hand side is your tea or coffee cup. It is important to note that you should hold your saucer underneath your cup when you sip. This will catch any small spill you may make. 
  • Going back to the left are your forks. It is easy to remember that you should usually work your way from the outside in with each course. Another rule of thumb is that the fork will get bigger with each progressing course. 
  • In the middle is your soup bowl and plate. If you don't know the use of these it's time to give up :). 
  • On the right you have your knives. The same general rules apply for use of knives as for forks.
  • Your soup spoon is also on the right. It is easy to identify your soup spoon because it will be the biggest. 
  • Last is your seafood fork. You will always know that this is your seafood fork because it is separated from all of the other forks. Also, here are some general rules of table etiquette to keep in mind. 

Here are some other general rules to keep in mind:

  • Ladies, no purses on the table, even if it is a clutch. 
  • Place your napkin on your lap immediately when you sit down. You should fold the napkin in half with the fold facing towards you. If you need to leave the table place your napkin on your chair. At the end of the meal, the napkin should be placed on the table.
  • When getting to the end of your soup you may tip the bowl ever so slightly away from you to aid in getting the last bits. 
  • When cutting, your fork should be in your left hand and your knife in the right. Your fork's tongs should be facing downward. When you have a bite on your fork you do not need transfer your fork from your left hand to your right. Your left hand is perfectly capable of bringing a fork to your mouth. If you want to go continental style and transfer hands, you certainly can, however I am a fan of the European style just described. 
  • If you need to be excused a simple "Excuse me," will suffice. Unless there is an emergency, there is no need to state a reason. 
  • Absolutely no texting or talking on the phone at the table. If you need to use your phone for an emergency, excuse yourself. 
  • When you have finished place your utensils at four o’clock on your dish to make it easier for the wait staff to remove it. 
  • Lastly, do not comment on others' table manners. There is no need to point out mistakes. Hopefully, they will learn by watching your good example!
Are you already a champion dinner? Is there anything you think I missed?



  1. This still looks terrifying haha! In a situation like this I would definitely be as bad as Jack was in Titanic. Interesting post though!

    Evelin Kivi blog

    1. Aww you can do it! All it takes is a little practice and you'll be totally comfortable no matter what the situation

  2. I was always told that one must never eat fish with a knife (one shouldn't need to anyway), therefore it would make no sense for (nor have I ever seen) a place setting with a fish knife. Everything else looks correct though.

    1. Perhaps you have never encountered it, but fish knifes are indeed an essential for a formal place setting. For further information you can look at this article from Emily Post which confirms the usage and placement of the fish knife: Formal Place Setting