Alyssa J Freitas

September 23, 2020

That Time I Was A Model For A Museum

This post is a fun one! My brother is a dancer and performer, so my mother is always scanning websites for auditions and opportunities. One day she came across the chance to be a model for the South Street Seaport Museum and to ride their historic schooner. She asked me if I wanted to do it, and of course I said yes! 
Click to read now or pin to save for later! Check out the fun story of the time when I was a model for a museum in NYC

I am obsessed with New York, and history, and being on the water, so this was a dream. The museum's mission is to "preserve and interpret the ​origins and growth of New York City as a world port, a place where goods, labor, and cultures are exchanged through work, commerce, and the interaction of diverse communities." They do this both through their museum on land and their historic boat tours.

I headed out bright and early to be there for sunrise. It was May (2019), so being on the water was pretty cold, but the views more than made up for it.

Well, tons of time went by and we didn't see any of results of the big photo shoot...until recently! 

You can see me here on this page with all of my model friends, looking at sea creatures. They instructed us to act natural and chat with each other. I'm pretty good, if I do say so myself. 

But most excitingly, you can see me a few times in this video! From pulling the lines, to telling stories to my new friends, I had so much fun being in this. 

-Alyssa J

September 16, 2020

What I've Read Lately, Vol. VII

I have seriously neglected to do a What I've Been Reading Lately post for quite some time! You can check out the last one here. These are posts where I share reviews from each book I've read to give you ideas of what to add next on your to-read list!
Click to read now or pin to save for later! Check out the books I've been reading lately to get inspiration for your own reading list

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid  ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

This was not quite what I was expecting. Based on the title, you’d think you’d be reading about love story after love story of a starlet, when in reality there is one great love story told. Evelyn Hugo sits down to tell her life story to a young writer, and what unfolds is a rags to riches, star crossed lovers, and heartbreaking tale. Definitely recommend this if you want a fast, addictive read!

The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I didn't write a review when finishing this book because it was a lot to process. This is a great read if you are interested in learning about the systems that rule our justice system and its impact on black men. I thought it was well written and researched, but just know that it is not intended to offer any solutions. Rather, it's a detailed exploration on the problem, leaving others to come up with the solution.

The Forest by Edward Rutherfurd ⭐️⭐️⭐️

I love Edward Rutherfurd books, and have documented my love many a time. However, this one dragged on for me. I don't know if it's because this is one of his earlier works or if it's because the location didn't captivate me, but I have to give this three stars. Like all of Rutherfurd's books, this novel focuses on multiple families throughout the ages in one location. There were some standout stories woven in, but the history didn't grab me.

Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I tore through this book in two days - what a thrill! The story, character development, and writing style all made this an immersive read. It follows the life of a girl who grows up completely on her own in a marsh in North Carolina in the 50s and 60s. Her resilience and creativity help her to survive, but she is forever impacted by the way she was abandoned. She gets close to few people in her life, and is misunderstood by many. The story ultimately centers around a murder trial where she is the defendant. Highly recommend this novel!

Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn ⭐️⭐️⭐️

I thought this book was too straightforward at first - how could I have figured out the criminal so quickly? Am I just that smart. Nope, there’s a MAJOR twist that you have to wait until the end to find out.

The novel chronicles a series of murders in a small town through the eyes of a reporter who grew up there. Basically everyone has some sort of mental disorder and you’ll cringe a bunch wondering if anything like this could actually happen in real life.

This is a quick, gruesome read that will keep you up late.

Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia ⭐️⭐️⭐️

This was a wild one. I read this for a second book club I joined (yay!), and can’t wait to hear what the rest of the group thinks. The story follows a young woman who is sent to visit her recently married cousin in a large and strange home. Her cousin is no longer herself, with a mysterious illness, and the husband’s family is odd - no electricity in the house, no talking during meals, and other rules that don’t make much sense.

Eventually the main character realizes that something the family is doing is causing her cousin’s pain, and she goes on to find out that supernatural pursuits rule the household. The book moves quickly, though I will say I arrived at the solution for their escape about halfway through...there could have been more surprises.

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I re-read this book in 2020 after reading it for the first time in 2014, and it is still a 5 star standout! Dale Carnegie has a way of weaving together advice, stories, science, and faith in a compelling and inspiring way. Putting challenges into perspective and realizing the physical, emotional, and relationship benefits of setting aside worry have re-inspired me to take a look at my life and habits. Highly recommend this book.

I wrote a post about this book and plan on going more in depth soon!

Dark Matter by Blake Crouch ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I flew through this book! It was another book club read where I probably would not have picked it for myself, but am so glad I got to read it. This novel follows Jason, a happy family man and professor. He gets kidnapped and wakes up in a world he does not know. From there, he has to fight to get back to his family and the world he loves. It's trippy at times and heart wrenching at others. I stayed up far too late one night to finish it.

Before We Were Yours by Lisa Wingate ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

This was an emotional and troubling novel, particularly because the story is based on real events. Going between two different generations, Before We Were Yours tells the tale of siblings who were stolen from their home and sent to an orphanage. From violence, to splitting up families, to mistreatment, it is a heart wrenching read. The novel explores the idea of "keeping the past in the past" versus knowing where your roots truly lie. I definitely recommend this book, but keep in mind it is very tough to hear about the trauma these children go through and to know it was at the hands of a real person.

One Day in December by Josie Silver ⭐️⭐️⭐️

Ok, so I enjoyed this book and read it fast, but the characters make choices I can’t get behind. From lying, to infidelity, to avoiding choices, it’s hard to totally get behind them or feel pleased with a happy ending. I’d recommend this as a palate cleanser type book, but beware that you won’t find many role models here.

What books have you been reading lately?

-Alyssa J

September 9, 2020

Playlists for Visiting the Met

Ever since visiting the Met's exhibit Heavenly Bodies where music was played, I've thought a lot about how music can impact the experience of viewing art. I decided to create playlists to accompany the different sections of the Met.
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Today I'm sharing my playlists for the 19th and Early 20th Century European Paintings and Sculpture, and Medieval Art (you could take this in to Arms and Armor as well; similar vibe that I think would go nicely) galleries. Enjoy!

Do you listen to music when visiting museums? 

-Alyssa J

September 2, 2020

August 2020 Monthly Recap

This month was big because I finally got to go back to the Met! As you probably know if you've been following on Instagram, I got to go to the Met during the Member's preview days and it was completely thrilling. Otherwise, this month has been pretty quiet. This is my shortest Monthly Recap post ever...
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I had an awesome weekend at home in New Jersey. There is something about being outside and not having to wear a mask that makes me feel so free. And getting to make s'mores is always a favorite activity.

In career news, I closed a deal that I had been working on for a while and am really proud of the effort and strategy that went into it. Although there is always another deal on the horizon, I took an evening to celebrate and am excited for the momentum this is giving me for the second half of the year.

Joe and I did our usual hangouts in the park and taking walks each day, but I haven't taken any pictures because it is all sort of looking the same 😂

And then there's the happy place. I have a whole Instagram stories series that you can check out and I am thinking of doing a Back in Time post about one of the donors I recently learned about.

That's all I have for you! I am still very much keeping my distance and not too many activities are going on that warrant photos, but I will try to take more in September.

-Alyssa J

August 26, 2020

Best Sales Books, Podcasts, and Websites

A question I get asked a lot is what resources I use to learn about sales and how I hone my craft. I thought it would be helpful to compile all of my favorites here! Remember, you don't have to be a "salesperson" to benefit from learning how to sell. We are all selling and influencing and negotiating every day and these skills will help you in your career and personal life.
Click to read now or pin to save for later. Check out this roundup of the best sales resources


How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
This book changed my life. I read it when I was in 8th grade and going through a particularly rough patch making friends (I referenced this in my last post) and it has continued to serve me well in my professional aspirations. I love the older writing style and stories, and refer to this book often!

The Challenger Sale by Brent Adamson and Matthew Dixon
This book is the latest iteration in how we can approach our customers differently. It's all about challenging norms and helping your customer think about their problems in a new way. Their website has some good resources as well. 

Never Spilt the Difference by Chris Voss
This is the latest in the negotiations world. Voss is a former hostage negotiator and his stories and techniques are incredibly interesting and useful. 

Right on Pitch by Austen Tosone
Austen is an accomplished content creator who knows how to pitch, negotiate, and sell in a complicated and varied industry. Her ebook on pitching is great for learning how to craft your message and create compelling reasons for others to work with you. She also shares tips constantly on social media, so make sure to give her a follow!

Podcasts and Websites

Daily Sales Tips Podcast
Scott shares a great sales tidbit each day, with a wide range of guests. Compelling Presentations is one of my favorite episodes. I also recommend Value Propositions and Concession Trading

WISE (Women in Sales Everywhere)
I volunteer with WISE and am so excited about the work we are doing! There's a backlog of blog posts (you can see mine here) and panel events to check out, with more coming out regularly. We cover tons of topics, so you're sure to find something that is helpful for you. 

Sales Hacker
This website has many forums where others in the sales community contribute their knowledge, challenges, and advice. From webinars, to podcasts, to articles, there is so much to explore! There's also a fun series on daily routines. I was profiled here if you're curious about the day in the life of a salesperson (pre-COVID).

I have a bunch of sales posts you check out here on this site too! 

Are there any resources you use to get better at communicating and selling? 

-Alyssa J