As a career and goal oriented person, everything I do revolves around improving my resume. "Take on more! You know you can handle it!" I think to myself. If something will take time away from the end goal, then I'm getting very good at saying no. However, what I often fail to realize is that I am more than my resume.
I am getting better at turning down opportunities that do not align with my ultimate goals, but I still struggle to make time for myself. For example, I love to read fiction, but does that contribute to greater knowledge that I can use in an interview? No it does not. Therefore I elect to read non-fiction and although I gain valuable information, I'm not getting any joy out of doing it. But there is value in engaging in an activity you enjoy purely because you like to do it! I am working on not only believing this, but acting on it too.
When your entire identity revolves around your accomplishments it becomes very easy to lose who you are aside from your professional self. I am "on" all of the time and find it hard to be anyone other than the perfectly put together person I try so hard to be. What I've come to realize is that this is not healthy! While I know it will take time and effort, I am vowing to do more for myself, spend more time being silly, and prioritizing not only based on my resume, but on my happiness too.
Do you struggle with this affliction as well? How do you deal with self-worth? Do you have any advice to share?