Alyssa J Freitas

October 25, 2016

The Guaranteed Way To Achieve Your Goals

There is nothing like achieving goals, is there? When you set your mind to something, work like crazy, and then accomplish it? In the past I've posted about how to make your dreams a reality and how to set principles to guide you, but today I want to drill down a bit more to take a look at what actual, practical steps you can use to really get moving on accomplishing those goals.
Have you ever wondered how to achieve any goal you set for yourself? Here is the key way to make those goals a reality

First thing first: Make a list of what you actually want to achieve

In order to figure out what it is you want to achieve, take a look at this post with some key questions to ask yourself. Once you know what they are, make a list with a timeline in mind. I prefer to make my lists by semester (I'm guessing that will change post grad...), but having a timeframe is a great way to ensure you are giving yourself a deadline for motivation. 

To share a bit of inspiration with you, here are some of my goals for the semester:
  • Make Dean's list
  • Keep posting on the blog twice a week
  • Exercise 5-6 days a week
  • Film a little bit each week for a senior year compilation
  • Secure a job
I keep this list on a small notepad on my desk (right next to the principles I set for myself for the year). This keeps them at the top of mind and will help with the next point. 

At the start of the day, ask: What can I do today to get closer to my goals?

This is the key to make any sort of moves towards your goals. Everyday I look at that list and take a moment to figure out what I will do during the day to chip away at those goals. For example: I want to secure a job after graduation (duh), so each day I send out an application, or talk to a professional connection, or research opportunities on LinkedIn. Another example: I want to exercise 5-6 times a week so I know I only have one day where I can skip. This means that each morning when I look at the goal I realize I HAVE to do something because I might want that day off later in the week. 

No matter what you want to do, there are small steps that can be taken daily. Want to make straight A's? You have to study a bit each day. Want to learn another language? You have to read and practice on the regular. Sure, some goals may seem big and tough to swallow. But the more you do today, the less that has to be done in the future. Keeping that in mind and maintaining a mindset of discipline will serve you so well! 

At the end of the day, ask: What did I do today to move towards my goals?

Just as you must start your day with the plan to get closer to your goals, you must end the day with accountability (and pride when you do make daily efforts!) to determine if you are on track. What I've learned is that small, incremental movements are the best way to maintain stamina and consistently achieve what you set out to. For much of what we want to do in life, it truly is a marathon and not a sprint. It can be all too easy to start out with enthusiasm and then allow it to fade. What will set you apart is the ability to take steps everyday.

By understanding what you want to achieve and why, working small steps in to your daily life, and checking in each evening, you will be well on your way to mastering goal achievement and performing beyond what you originally thought possible.

How do you work towards goals? What are you working on right now and how are you taking steps to get there?


October 20, 2016

You Are More Than Your Body

The other day I was in a situation that made me incredibly sad. I was sitting in a place where I was able to listen to two girls have an extensive discussion about their weight. They covered every facet from exercise, to diet, to binge eating, to looking back at pictures of themselves and hating the way they looked, to their feelings in middle school, to their examination of themselves in the mirror the day before. They spoke about their most recent weigh in and the snacks they were allowing themselves.
You are worth so much more than your appearance. You are a person with thoughts and feelings and value outside of your physical self

They talked about approval from others and about people commenting when they lose weight. They spoke about how they diet in groups and about what their mothers say and how they feel "special" when their clothing is a bit more loose. They spoke about the times they felt happiest, and I was crushed to hear it was in the past.

Now, I understand that discussing health and being able to open up to friends is important. It's something I do with my friends (and at one time I did it too frequently and had to cut back on the amount of mental space I allowed my body to take up), but we always try to keep it positive. There is so much literature on the subject of body image and I've drafted my fair share of posts on the topic, but ultimately shied away from it. I thought to myself, "Who am I to add more noise to this discussion? And what authority do I have?"

But, you know what, I have seen too many of my beautiful friends feel inferior because of their body. I have had a cherished friendship impacted because of outward appearance and an eating disorder. I have heard too many conversations between women about how they look and how they want to become more appealing. And I am sick of it.

Health is one thing. It's important to take care of yourself and to be physically fit and nourished. It is another thing to allow your appearance to take hold of your energy and to impact your personal satisfaction and happiness. There is SO MUCH MORE to life than how we look. We add value through our intelligence and love and kindness, not simply by looking lovely.

If I could talk to everyone who is feeling negatively toward their body, I would tell them that they are more than their physical self. You are your thoughts and your actions. You are your responses and your kindness. You are your interests and passions. Please acknowledge how you feel, but do not allow it to overcome you. Please don't allow it to be a constant topic of conversation. Please know that I like you because of WHO you are, not how you look.

How do you approach body image? Have you observed this same thing?


October 18, 2016

Flirting Etiquette

Aaaaaaaand we're back with another relationship video with Patrick (take a look at our Dating Etiquette video here and our 7 Reasons They Stopped Texting You video over here)! Today we are discussing flirting 101 and how you can be better at making your feelings/intentions know to someone else.

Here are 5 ways to up your flirting game and have perfect flirting etiquette

It can be so tough to figure out where you stand with someone and to determine how to be interested, but not TOO interested, and the entire thing can so quickly become a confusing mess. These tips are meant to help you along the way and raise the bar of your flirting game.

Please let me know what you think of these tips! Is there anything you would add? Any other topics you'd like us to discuss?


P.S. Be sure to connect with Patrick on YouTubeTwitter, Instagram, and his blog

October 13, 2016

3 Informative Blogging Resources

There is A LOT of information out there about blogging. Sometimes it can get overwhelming (and, frankly, repetitive) to keep up with all of the content produced. Another troubling factor is how this saturation of advice can sway you from creating what you uniquely enjoy and everyone's stuff starts to look the same.

There are some great resources out there, however, that I find quite useful. Today I am going to share with you 3 essential blogging resources to help you cut through the noise and get to the best content in the blogging sphere.

A roundup of 3 high quality, informative blogging resources

01. Blogging For Keeps 7-Day Email Challenge

I'm giving you the best one first! Blogging For Keeps is a site about (you guessed it) blogging run by two Chicago bloggers, Jess and Blair. This dynamic duo shares spot on, actionable advice and they show how blogging can facilitate great friendships. I signed up for their (free!) 7-Day Email Challenge to drive more traffic to your site and cannot rave about it enough. They send an email each day with a lesson and homework that is so comprehensive and high quality. There was one day focused on Google Analytics and it was better information than I've seen anywhere else. Go sign up now!

Bonus: Quill Engage

To go along with email signups and Google Analytics, I LOVE Quill Engage. You can sign up for a free, customized report of your Google Analytics (read: explanations in plain English of what all of those numbers actually mean) that comes to your inbox every Tuesday and the 2nd of the month (not sure why the 2nd, but it's always a welcome email!). You can also upgrade your plan if you want more detailed information, but for me the free version is great. Sign up here!

02. Blogging Is Our Jam Pinterest Board

Pinterest is a blogging haven. There are countless pins about blogging, but some fellow bloggers and I collect the very best on the board "Blogging Is Our Jam."

03. I Can Build A Blog

This site by Dana from the Wonder Forest blog is chock full of meaty articles with tutorials and advice for beginners to advanced bloggers. I strongly reccommend taking some time to browse the very easy to use site and picking up some tips (plus, you can check out a number of guests posts I did for Dana's Wonder Forest blog).

So there you have it! My 3 essential blogging resources to help you make the most of your site and be the best blogger you can be.

Do you have any favorites? Have you heard of these resources before?


October 11, 2016

Minimalist Evening Skincare Routine

If you haven't noticed, I am a firm believer that less is more. I live this principle out in my spending, my shopping, my digital life, my papers, my media (social and otherwise)...and the list goes on. Another place where minimalism is very important to me is in my daily routines. Today I am going to share how I take a minimalist approach to my evening skincare routine and how you can streamline your process as well!
Minimalist Evening Skincare Routine

01. Get rid of that makeup

In the evening it is so, so, SO important to make sure you remove all of your makeup before you wash your face. I made the mistake for far too long of just jumping in and washing my face before making sure that all of the makeup from the day was gone. I use a washcloth and Lush's 9 to 5 Cleansing Lotion as my makeup remover, but it can also be used as a standalone cleanser.

02. Wash up

After I remove my makeup it's time to give my face a wash. A little less than a year ago I wrote a post all about how I used natural skincare products to eradicate my acne. In that post I mentioned that I use a face brush cleanser in the evening to really get a deep clean before going to bed. Unfortunately the one I originally purchased did not last too long so I knew this was a great time to partner with Clarisonic to give their Mia 2 device a try.
Minimalist Evening Skincare Routine
One of my good friends with beautiful skin has been using the Mia 2 face cleansing brush for quite some time and consistently told me I needed to give it a try. The main reason for my hesitancy was the price, because it is rather high-end. However, with the holidays coming up this could be a great time to drop some hints that this would make a great gift, or you could even treat yourself :) You can use the code HERCAMPUS through October 31 to get 15% off!
Minimalist Evening Skincare Routine
I use the Mia 2 every other night (although it is so gentle that you could use it twice a day, everyday) with the daily cleanser that comes in the set. On the other days I love to use Lush's Herbalism cleanser; it smells so good and keeps my skin balanced.

03. Mask time

I never really understood the power of masks until I found Lush's Mask of Magnaminty, and now I can add Clarisonic's Deep Pore Detoxifying Clay Mask to my arsenal. Masks are such a luxurious way to take care of your skin and I like to do a mask two/three times a week. In fact, my friend Ally (who took these pictures!) and I had a "mask party" and loved our spa day.

So that's it: literally three steps for an evening skincare routine. While you'll have to experiment to figure out exactly what works for you, these three easy steps can help you be a minimalist when it comes to your routine.

What are your skincare musts? Any favorite products?


First two photos by Ally Marcino. Check out her site for more great photography and for inquiries. 

This post is brought to you by Clarisonic and Her Campus Media